The holidays and wedding planning can create stresses individually but put them together and YIKES you may start to spiral!! Here's some advice for holiday wedding couples and for any couples planning multiple celebrations or life events that collide with wedding planning:
1. Enlist the aid of your loved ones. Many times you may feel like you are imposing on people in your life to handle tasks you are struggling to complete on your own. I assure you, these offers to help are heartfelt and sincere. Everybody who offers loves to participate in wedding planning. Your wedding preparations touch the lives of so many people and they will feel honored and special when called to action.
2. Pinterest and other wedding related sites put a lot of pressure on a couple to create perfection. Take some time to reflect on what is truly important to you, execute it and then stay off the web! Your first instinct is usually the best one, no need to second guess.
3. Merge the holidays with wedding planning. At holiday family gatherings incorporate a DIY project or brainstorm session related to your wedding.
4. Take some time for you. Easier said then done, I know! But even a ten minute walk around the block to admire holiday decorations gives you a moment to yourself.
5. Take some time with your future spouse. Make sure that at least one time during the holidays you have a date night! I recommend planning a date that revisits a memory of the time before you became engaged. During this date don't talk about the wedding or the holidays. Just be together in a way that brought you together in the first place.
6. Call your venue coordinator and speak to them about any challenges you feel during your planning. You may not realize it but your venue contact is equipped to handle many aspects of your day. Of course they coordinate the reception and perhaps the ceremony. But they can also provide solutions to unexpected situations. They have so much experience! Perhaps they already have printed directions, menu cards, cake servers, etc. They network with tons of vendors and can help make the selection process easier for you. Use your venue coordinator for more then linen selection and menu choices. They are happy to assist!
7. Breath. Then breath again. Taking a few deep breaths is scientifically proven to reduce anxiety and refocus your mind. Breath, everyday and before and after any stressful moments.
8. Most importantly, remember that anything that goes "wrong" is the stuff legendary memories are made of. Find humor in these moments and move on. You are getting married to the love of your life, the rest will fall into place!
I wish you all the best as you juggle your to do list!! If I can be of service do not hesitate to call.....
I become very attached to the couples who's weddings I officiate. I believe each couple is deserving of my respect and gratitude. I strive to create a ceremony that feels right for each unique couple. I am blessed to meet many lovely people and celebrate their most special day! I take the honor of officiating so very seriously because I believe the ceremony is the jewel in the crown of the wedding day. I prepare for each ceremony as if it were one of my children's, because I feel my nurturing instinct kick in when I meet the couples who have chosen me as an officiant. Officiating is more than a vocation for me; it is a passion project. I am inspired by each and every person I meet along the way. Officiating has never felt like a chore or a job to me but rather it is a labor of love!
Having shared all of that, the most important part of what I do has nothing to do with me. My officiating services are all about you! I am motivated by your personalities, style and wishes for you day. I ask all of my couples for honest feedback when I send the initial ceremony sample after our consultation. I need that feedback in order to provide the most meaningful service possible. Remember your ceremony is about you! And as always, I am honored to orchestrate your service.
I recently officiated a wedding that included a hand-fasting ceremony. It was truly one of the most touching and beautiful ceremony elements I can recall. The couple held each other's hands while I wrapped them together with a lovely cord. The cord represented the spiritual bond of their marriage. As they stood looking at one another, hands entwined, I read the following:
"These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch."
The moment was intimate and profound. The couple plan to use the cord in their home as a momento of their ceremony. I am happy to share this idea with you in hopes that it will inspire you to personalize your own ceremony!