When two people fall in love and decide to marry, sometimes there are children to consider. I encourage anyone who has children that is getting married to include them in the ceremony. Not only is a new marriage being born, but a new family is also being born.
A person with a child is a package deal. Mother and child, father and child cannot be seperated. The well-being of children in a relationship should be a priority of the couple. If the children are honored, the couple's marriage will be stronger.
To incorporate children in a ceremony is very easy to do. Once the couple exchanges vows, vows to children can be expressed. A few moments of loving, supportive, reassuring promises will allow the children to feel involved and secure in the new family. A token of these vows can be given to each child. These tokens may include family medallion jewelry (easily found online), a "certificate of family", family momentos, or any tangible item that is meaningful to you. The main thing is inclusivity and recognition of all members of your new "tribe".
Blending a family is a challenge worth taking for love multiplies itself with the proper nurturing!