Blending families

When two people fall in love and decide to marry, sometimes there are children to consider.  I encourage anyone who has children that is getting married to include them in the ceremony.  Not only is a new marriage being born, but a new family is also being born.

A person with a child is a package deal.  Mother and child, father and child cannot be seperated.  The well-being of children in a relationship should be a priority of the couple.  If the children are honored, the couple's marriage will be stronger.

To incorporate children in a ceremony is very easy to do.  Once the couple exchanges vows, vows to children can be expressed.  A few moments of loving, supportive, reassuring promises will allow the children to feel involved and secure in the new family.  A token of these vows can be given to each child.  These tokens may include family medallion jewelry (easily found online), a "certificate of family", family momentos, or any tangible item that is meaningful to you.  The main thing is inclusivity and recognition of all members of your new "tribe".

Blending a family is a challenge worth taking for love multiplies itself with the proper nurturing!