I love to meet with each couple I officiate for prior to the ceremony. The consultation can take place in person or via skype. I always prefer an in person meeting but understand that many couples are busy and prefer to skype. Either way, the goal of the consultation is for us to begin to build our relationship.
Building our relationship is key for three main reasons: 1. It allows you a chance to find out if I "feel" like the perfect officiant for you. An officiant, just like a spouse, may look good on paper, but there needs to be the right chemistry as well. After all, you are entrusting the most important moment of your life to this person. 2. It allows the officiant to get a sense of each of you and who you are as a couple. The personalities, interactions and stories of each couple provide me with the information I need to design a custom ceremony that's just right. 3. It allows all of us to feel comfortable with one another so that your ceremony is sincere and heartfelt.
Truth be told, I actually feel a little selfish! The couples I get to meet bring me great joy! I do become attached and look forward to hearing about life after the wedding day. I am grateful to be invited into the lives of those I marry. I set the bar pretty high for myself, I believe your wedding ceremony should never be forgotten!
I thank all the many people who have made my passion of officiating weddings a labor of love!!
Once you have decided on a wedding officiant, the next step is consulting with them to discuss your ceremony needs. Your officiant should offer this service to provide you and your future spouse with the opportunity to give input on the ceremony. You may be asked to consider readings, prayers, vows and other elements to make your ceremony personal and meaningful. Don't worry if you are unsure of your selections during the consultation. An experienced officiant will get to know you and make suggestions based on your feedback.
One of the most important considerations when choosing an officiant is your comfort level. You and your officiant will partner together to create the ceremony of your dreams. Make the most of your consultation by getting to know your officiant and letting your officiant get to know both of you.
Keep in mind that an excellent officiant will work with you in the time leading up to your wedding day to make any changes you desire to your ceremony. The consultation is only the beginning of the partnership you will share with your officiant. Your wedding day is a celebration and the right officiant who creates the perfect ceremony for you will set the tone for your entire event!
For me, the consultation is key. It's very gratifying to create the right ceremony for the right couple. I love meeting the people who I will officiate for and am so happy to hear each love story!
I am so happy to be a recipient of the Wedding Wire Couple's Choice Award for 2016. It is my mission to create the right ceremony for each couple. This honor comes from my clients, which means more to me then any other award.
I am so blessed to be able to officiate wedding ceremonies, for me it is a passion!
Thank you to all my past, current and future couples for your beautiful feedback!
As we celebrate the new year, I find myself reflecting on renewal in all aspects of my life. I think about refreshing my home, improving my health and recommitting myself to my family. All of these thoughts bring me to the relationship that is shared by a husband and wife.
Renewal, fresh pages to be written on, looking forward while reflecting on the past. All of these thoughts remind me of making vows to your husband or wife for the future of your marriage. To be married for many years is a beautiful milestone that can be celebrated through vow renewal.
When a couple decides to recommit themselves to one another it can be even more meaningful than the original wedding day. With time in marriage comes wisdom and a true knowledge of how important it is to work together, accepting your spouse for who they are.
I welcome the opportunity to officiate vow renewals. There is a beauty unlike any other that shines when a couple says " I know you, and I still choose you, as I did then, I do now."
Happy New Year and may all your days in 2016 be healthy and happy!
The holidays and wedding planning can create stresses individually but put them together and YIKES you may start to spiral!! Here's some advice for holiday wedding couples and for any couples planning multiple celebrations or life events that collide with wedding planning:
1. Enlist the aid of your loved ones. Many times you may feel like you are imposing on people in your life to handle tasks you are struggling to complete on your own. I assure you, these offers to help are heartfelt and sincere. Everybody who offers loves to participate in wedding planning. Your wedding preparations touch the lives of so many people and they will feel honored and special when called to action.
2. Pinterest and other wedding related sites put a lot of pressure on a couple to create perfection. Take some time to reflect on what is truly important to you, execute it and then stay off the web! Your first instinct is usually the best one, no need to second guess.
3. Merge the holidays with wedding planning. At holiday family gatherings incorporate a DIY project or brainstorm session related to your wedding.
4. Take some time for you. Easier said then done, I know! But even a ten minute walk around the block to admire holiday decorations gives you a moment to yourself.
5. Take some time with your future spouse. Make sure that at least one time during the holidays you have a date night! I recommend planning a date that revisits a memory of the time before you became engaged. During this date don't talk about the wedding or the holidays. Just be together in a way that brought you together in the first place.
6. Call your venue coordinator and speak to them about any challenges you feel during your planning. You may not realize it but your venue contact is equipped to handle many aspects of your day. Of course they coordinate the reception and perhaps the ceremony. But they can also provide solutions to unexpected situations. They have so much experience! Perhaps they already have printed directions, menu cards, cake servers, etc. They network with tons of vendors and can help make the selection process easier for you. Use your venue coordinator for more then linen selection and menu choices. They are happy to assist!
7. Breath. Then breath again. Taking a few deep breaths is scientifically proven to reduce anxiety and refocus your mind. Breath, everyday and before and after any stressful moments.
8. Most importantly, remember that anything that goes "wrong" is the stuff legendary memories are made of. Find humor in these moments and move on. You are getting married to the love of your life, the rest will fall into place!
I wish you all the best as you juggle your to do list!! If I can be of service do not hesitate to call.....
I become very attached to the couples who's weddings I officiate. I believe each couple is deserving of my respect and gratitude. I strive to create a ceremony that feels right for each unique couple. I am blessed to meet many lovely people and celebrate their most special day! I take the honor of officiating so very seriously because I believe the ceremony is the jewel in the crown of the wedding day. I prepare for each ceremony as if it were one of my children's, because I feel my nurturing instinct kick in when I meet the couples who have chosen me as an officiant. Officiating is more than a vocation for me; it is a passion project. I am inspired by each and every person I meet along the way. Officiating has never felt like a chore or a job to me but rather it is a labor of love!
Having shared all of that, the most important part of what I do has nothing to do with me. My officiating services are all about you! I am motivated by your personalities, style and wishes for you day. I ask all of my couples for honest feedback when I send the initial ceremony sample after our consultation. I need that feedback in order to provide the most meaningful service possible. Remember your ceremony is about you! And as always, I am honored to orchestrate your service.
I recently officiated a wedding that included a hand-fasting ceremony. It was truly one of the most touching and beautiful ceremony elements I can recall. The couple held each other's hands while I wrapped them together with a lovely cord. The cord represented the spiritual bond of their marriage. As they stood looking at one another, hands entwined, I read the following:
"These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch."
The moment was intimate and profound. The couple plan to use the cord in their home as a momento of their ceremony. I am happy to share this idea with you in hopes that it will inspire you to personalize your own ceremony!
When two people are in love and decide to get married they begin to think of wedding day details. Many people decide to get married in a church, others at their reception venue and still others find unique locations to hold their ceremony.
Wedding day vision is as unique as each couple's personality. I have found that there are traditional couples and non-traditional couples. The common factor for all of them is the joy shared during the ceremony. Any location becomes "ideal" when all that matters is the love.
I have officiated beautiful weddings in gorgeous ballrooms and in homey living rooms, on docks at the bay and on Jersey shore beaches, in hotel suites and even in my own home! The backdrop literally fades away and the couple's love takes center stage during each and every ceremony.
Wherever it feels right for you and your future spouse to say your vows is the absolute right place for your ceremony. Let your creativity and heart guide you!
I love to give out references!! I have been fortunate to be blessed with many kind, beautiful reviews and I know how important those reviews can be. I myself read online reviews when selecting professionals in my own life! Reading reviews and looking at ratings is a great start. You can learn much about other couple's experiences with a particular officiant.
I encourage any couple inquiring about my services to also speak with couples I have already worked with. The reviews will bring you to the point of inquiry but the references are a chance to ask questions of people who selected me as their officiant. There is a lot to be said for the excitement and enthusiasm in a person's voice that does not always translate through the written word. Perhaps the reviews did not address some specific thoughts or questions you are having. I am always thrilled to ask the couples I have married if I can use them as a reference for other couples about to be married. I am even more thrilled to supply those references to you, the inquiring couple.
As always, I am honored to be chosen as the wedding officiant for any couple's wedding day!
Officiating is not just about the wedding day ceremony. It's a wonderful way to provide service to others at the one of the happiest (and busiest) time in a couple's life.
When considering an officiant it's important to realize that the services an officiant provides goes beyond the 30 minute ceremony. An officiant is an artist, a motivational speaker, a personal assistant, a secretary and a friend.
Your officiant should be able to creatively compose a ceremony unique to you. I enjoy this part of my process because the writer/artist in me loves to prepare a ceremony that resonates with the couple and the guests. Little personal and meaningful touches will always be remembered when your ceremony is performed with only you two in mind.
Your officiant should be a motivational speaker. I don't mean as in an infomercial but certainly well-spoken and sincere when delivering your ceremony. I love to engage the guests and speak thoughtfully to evoke all the beautiful feelings a wedding day brings.
Your officiant should be a personal assistant. Guiding my very busy couples through the licensing process to ensure every i is dotted and every t is crossed is of the utmost importance.
Your officiant should be a secretary. I take care of filing the license on behalf of my couples so that they are free to begin their honeymoon!!
Mostly, as you come to know your officiant they become a friend. I love learning a little something about the couples I officiate for. I enjoy the stories about their journey to the wedding day. By the time of the ceremony I feel very much attached to their "I Do" moment and my heart celebrates with them!