Your wedding day is something you look forward to with great joy. There are so many plans and details to make and consider. Even though you might feel overwhelmed at times, it is so much fun! When I meet with you for a consultation I realize that you may not even know where to begin or what questions to ask. I promise to thoroughly guide you through the entire process and create a seamless experience for you. A few questions that you may have are answered here, but please know that I am always available to you during the entire process to answer any additional questions and to address anything that comes up. Please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call me at 732-539-1045 to schedule your consultation. As always, I wish you all the best!
1. Why should I hire an officiant? My friend/family member has offered to officiate our ceremony.
Ah, yes. You may have a loved one who happily volunteered to officiate your wedding ceremony. What a beautiful expression of their love for you! There are also people who officiate as a hobby or part-time gig. Although anyone of these individuals can go through the basics of a wedding ceremony, is that what you want for the most important day of your life? A professional, experienced wedding officiant provides a creative, comprehensive approach to a profoundly special time in your life. With years of experience, I work with you to discover elements that will truly resonate. Wedding ceremony elements range from traditional to untraditional, classic to off the beaten path and everywhere in between. Hiring a professional, full-time officiant ensures you are in the hands of someone who will breath life into your ceremony both through the creation of the words and the performance of the moment. With a love of public speaking, a background in theater, a personal passion for writing a resume that includes a corporate position with Disney and a sincere love of weddings, I bring a tool box full of experience to the process! It's also of utmost importance to hire a professional who is well versed on the licensing process as well. Being a full-time officiant has been an honor and privilege that I never take for granted. And as for your family and friends, they may be included in the ceremony in a number of ways - reciting a reading, sharing a blessing, participating in a unity moment, etc... - all the while being able to be present in the moment as they have the pleasure of witnessing your wedding, something they will appreciate so much!
2. What is the process like working with you as our officiant?
Once you reach out to me to inquiry about my services, I will contact you to schedule a complimentary consultation. During the consultation I learn more about you, your love story and wedding ceremony wishes. I welcome all questions about myself, what to expect and any ideas you may have. I will go over the marriage license and certificate process and what to expect from me on the big day as well.
When you invite me to be your officiant, I then get to work creating your ceremony. You will have the opportunity to review it well before your wedding day and I will happily make any edits you request. There is no limit to how many times we connect!
On your wedding day, I arrive early and ensure all is set up and ready to go! I oversee the signing of your paperwork and provide you with a copy. Afterwards, I promptly file your license so that you will be able to obtain your official marriage certificate. I am available to you after you are married should you have any further questions. I love when couples keep in touch and share milestone moments from their marriage with me!
3. What about a rehearsal?
I may be available for a rehearsal for a supplemental fee based on location and my schedule. Most of the time I am available Monday-Thursday. If you'd like to rehearse on the same day as your wedding, I can usually show up a bit earlier at no additional fee. Keep in mind that your venue coordinator is a great resource to facilitate a rehearsal. I also am happy to have a phone call or Skype session to review the details of your ceremony rehearsal if I am not in attendance.
4. Will you guide us through the licensing process, it seems a little confusing?
Sure! I will give you an overview of the process during our initial consultation and I will also guide you along the way. I will reach out to you at various points before your wedding day with reminders and information so that you can take this "to do" off your list.
5. Can my friends or family participate in the ceremony?
Of course! Your ceremony should be exactly what you want including partiicipation of loved ones, selection of readings, vows, etc....My only goal is that you are happy with the end result!
6. What happens if you have an emergency on the day of my wedding?
Great question! This has not happened (try to keep me away from the big day) but I am prepared with a plan should there ever be a need. I have developed relationships with three other experienced, quality officiants and we have agreed to cover each other in the rare instance that an emergency occurs.
7. May we write our own vows?
Absolutely. Some couples love the idea of writing their own vows while others prefer to use pre-selected, pre-written ones. If you write your own, I would be happy to assist you in getting started and answering any questions along the way. Whichever way you go, it's all your decision and I support you wholeheartedly!
8. Do you perform non-religious, slightly religious, spiritual, inter-faith and LGBTQ+ ceremonies?
The answer is yes, yes, yes, yes and yes! As a non-denominational officiant who believes that any two people who wish to marry should, I work with people from all walks of life with all different perspectives about religion. I have had the opportunity to weave elements from many faiths and cultures into wedding ceremonies. If I am not familiar with a suggested element, I will do my homework to ensure that I learn it and incorporate it into the script. I really love exploring all the options out there and sharing ideas with you! I also let you tell me how much or how little religion you'd like in your ceremony and I respect your choice.
9. What do you wear when you officiate?
I happen to be one of those people who cares about aesthetics and therefore I am very mindful of being in your professional wedding photos. You have made an investment and carefully selected a photographer to capture the moment and the last thing I want to do is be a distraction in your pictures. I usually wear a black dress or suit but I always ask first. I happily wear any color you ask me too, keeping it simple, without pattern or bold jewelry. Please know that I am open to all of your thoughts and requests about how you wish for me to dress at your wedding ceremony.
10. What are your fees?
I create ceremonies with just the two of you in mind and spend quality time preparing for your most important day! My fee is reflective of the time I take preparing your ceremony, editing it, same day coordination of ceremony set-up/details, communication with your other ceremony vendors to ensure a seamless experience, preparation and filing of your license and guidance of the entire process with you and is not based on the size of your wedding. Whether your guest list is intimate or grand, I believe your ceremony and love story deserves time, respect and reverence to create a moment that is meaningful. This process takes many hours over a period of days, weeks or months. My fee ranges from $500-1000 based on ceremony location. My rehearsal fee also depends on location and I would be happy to give you a quote. I can also perform elopement ceremonies, feel free to contact me for details.
11. How does payment work?
Easy, I ask for a $100 deposit to secure the date with the balance due on your wedding day before the ceremony begins. This way you can go off and enjoy the first moments of your marriage without having any housekeeping details to worry about. I accept cash, checks, money orders or Venmo transactions. Some couples ask if they can pay the balance before their wedding day. Whatever works best for you is fine with me!
12. Can you provide references?
I'd love to! Please feel free to read my reviews here, on Wedding Wire or The Knot. If there is a particular review you read and you'd like to connect to that particular couple for a reference, I will do my best to put you in touch. Otherwise, I can provide names and numbers of couples who would be happy to answer your questions!
13. Would you mind referring other wedding vendors that I still need?
I have the opportunity to work alongside wonderful DJ's, photographers, videographers, florists, musicians and planners at beautiful venues throughout the area. I would be happy to share contact information of professionals who's work I admire!
I understand and expect that you will have other questions! That's wonderful, I love providing support and guidance to newly engaged couples. Please contact me to discuss your wedding and I will happily do what I can to ensure your wedding ceremony is memorable, sincere and heartfelt!